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Estrella Vista / The Redemption Project / “Wandervogel Diary”

“Estrella Vista”

800 Seaman Road

HC-65, Box 243 A

Alpine, TX  79830

 

(432) 371-4257

 

DaileySun@outlook.com

 

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

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Dear Family, Friends, and Supporters,

 

I have just witnessed my second-in-a-row fantastic moon sets from Estrella Vista.

Last night was a full moon on a clear and slightly warmer midnight than the two nights

before. It is not yet 7 a.m. and the eastern sky is beginning to show great colors of reds,

yellows, and oranges.

 

This is a magnificent estate which my brother created to help young men and women,

who endured child abuse and then had to be prosecuted as adults for murders they were

led to do while children. Fairness in American justice may never be achieved but giving

perociles a chance to lead more normal lives can be a reality. Estrella Vista stands today

– without its visionary founder – as that beacon of safety, security, and hope.

 

So in the spirit of keeping the beacon burning bright, I am asking”Wandervogel Diary”

readers to respond with their best efforts to keep the vision, mission, goals, and

projects of The Redemption Project moving into the right direction.

 

Your support of new administrators of the project, Dan’s son Henry,

and many others working on the project will be appreciated very much.

Where ever I may be, I will be praying, thinking positive, and looking

forward to reading about your future successes.

 

All the best,

 

 

David A. F. N. “Buck” Dailey

Founder of “The Dailey Sun-Chronicles”

http://www.MaxsScoutServicesLLC.wordpress.com

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Animals Can Learn Me All Needed To No

Lessons that do not have to be learned by humans
“the hard way.”

Max's Scout Services & Communications of the Americas WebBlog

Dog Wisdom: See Lessons Learned From Dogs by David A. Dailey

Talking Turkey:

(1) Treat a dead chicken like a tom turkey.

Rub it down real good in salt and water before cooking.

(2) Don’t look up staring at a rainstorm.

     From  my Cats Ozzie, Ray, Maxine, Snowball, et.al:

(1) If you don’t like where you are at now, move.

(2) There is no such thing as loneliness; solitude is a great thing.

(3) If you want something, speak up. It does not hurt to ask.

(4) If you shit up, it is your ship – cover it up.

Learned Horses Brandywine and Dawn Dailey:

(1) Eat well and often.

(2) Be dependable.

(3) Demonstrate grace, passion, strength, inner beauty, and talents.

     Razorback Hogs:

(1) Roll in your own shit and you will smell like yourself.

(2) If you mind your manners and keep your hocks clean, you may…

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Excerpt from Cookbook: Confessions of An Oenophile

Cookbook available for purchase through Barnes & Noble, Amazon, or Outskirts Press.

Phorward

This cookbook has been in the oven for over 100 years.

My family has a tradition of eating well no matter what.

My Grandma was born in June 1903.

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There are too many people for me to thank for everything. I’ll start with my Grandmothers, my mother who passed away in the 90’s, and my dad who died in his sleep in the 80’s. I’d also like to publicly thank my mother-in-law, too. Grandmother Baker raised five bright healthy children. Grandma Bruggner had eleven grandkids and Grandma Dailey had five of us. Special thanks to my daughter Anessa, older brother Dan, and sister Christine! Also, you know who you are in Healdsburg, California.

If you are shopping for recipes to barbeque or microwave, this is not the book for you.

If you have food allergies, I can appreciate those. Me, myself, and I am deathly allergic to nuts, mustard, and some strawberries. So these All-American recipes can be embellished with these ingredients if you wish. Just do not expect me to touch the nuts.

Thank heavens that few nuts are grown where I was born and raised in Indiana.

Unlike the Pottowatomie Indians, my school chums and I never ate tree nuts or grown acorns from oak trees. We spent more time playing in poison ivy.

I truly believe that eating American food is good for us. All that obesity talk is heavy. I used to weigh 328 pounds. In the three years since my gastric bypass surgery, I have lost 122 pounds. So eating is one of my problems. Thus a series of dinner parties and one “coast-to-coast virtual dinner was held on 9-1-07. Recipes from India, mushrooms, some strawberries and shrimp were some of my favorites but unfortunately I cannot digest some things without sad symptoms. So what I chose to eat is important principally because I must not overeat too much food, few fast foods or drink a lot of liquids.

Speaking of liquids, I highly recommend all kinds of wine! For over eleven months, I have immersed myself in the Northern California wine culture by living right in the center of it. Talking with chefs along the Wine Country. Learning from them, winemakers and specialists in wine tasting rooms. Gratitude is due to everyone I met along the wine roads of Sonoma, Napa, Mendocino, and Monterey Counties in California. Prior to moving to Wine Country, I lived about 20 years in California’s beautiful San Mateo County and seven years in San Francisco. Personally, I remain a Hoosier but believe I am a Californian that you can trust your stomachs to.

Preface

 

This cookbook has been in the works for decades. As a “latchkey kid” long before the term was popularized, I was preparing meals for myself from age ten or so. I would like to be able to claim that I learned the kitchen basics at my mother’s elbow, but the truth is I found my way reading cookbooks and through trial-and-error.

 

When I inherited my mother’s and grandmother’s recipes on index cards, I took it upon myself to reconstruct my family’s kitchen legacy which had previously only been preserved in the hearts and memories of our family and friends.

 

Thus, a fair amount of contemporary thought and planning has gone into this cookbook, and it has been shaped by my own tastes and interests. For example, it has been my goal to put together a practical family cookbook using wine as an important ingredient in a wide variety of menus. I live in the wine country of northern California, where wine is an important influence in the whole culture. I have therefore taken our old family meals and embellished them accordingly.

 

I have also tended to focus on “comfort foods” which, though some people accuse this use of food as being inherently unhealthy, can be made increasingly beneficial if only the cook will think about how home-grown produce and local ingredients can be integrated and experiment with them. I therefore have included recipes which use those foods and ingredients that are available, not only to us in California, but in the Midwestern, Southern and the Atlantic states.

 

We are entering an era in which rising transportation costs and food safety concerns will likely change our ways with food.  These recipes limit the mandatory use of gourmet, exotic, and hard-to-find ingredients. I have, in fact, organized the book according to the seasons of the year when local ingredients are more likely to be “in season.”

 

I can recall during college that my dear future wife tried baking homemade wheat bread. Too bad she got confused between baking powder and baking soda; we ended up using the loaves as doorstops. Remember to have a sense of humor in the kitchen – no matter what may happen.

 

 

Fall 2007

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Hoosier Headed to Hawai’ian Heaven, Hopefully

Aloha!

Hoʻokumu ʻia ka ʻEkalesia o Keawalaʻi e ko mākou mau kūpuna
i kūpaʻa ma hope o ke aloha o ke Akua
mai kekahi hanauna a kekahi hanauna aku.

ʻO mākou nō nā haumāna a Iesū Kristo,
e heahea akula me ke aloha i nā lāhui a pau i ko mākou ʻohana.

Lawelawe ʻia nā lāhui a pau e ko Keawalaʻi
ma o ka pilina ʻuhane o ke kaiāulu ākea,
i hoʻolōkahi ʻia ka hoʻomana Kalikiano
me ka moʻomeheu Hawaiʻi.

Keawalaʻi Congregational Church, founded by our kūpuna, is committed to sharing Godʻs aloha from generation to generation.

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As haumāna of Jesus Christ we welcome all, love all, and accept all into our ʻohana.

Keawalaʻi ministers to all through the spiritual gifts we share as a diverse community uniting our Christian faith and Hawaiian heritage.

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Ulimatum for Minor Female Characters of the “Country Corner” Trilogy [TAKE NOTE: ‘Kathy Bates’ and ‘Debra Winger’ Characters]

Ulimatum for Minor Female Characters of the “Country Corner” Trilogy [TAKE NOTE: ‘Kathy Bates’ and ‘Debra Winger’ Characters].

via Ulimatum for Minor Female Characters of the “Country Corner” Trilogy [TAKE NOTE: ‘Kathy Bates’ and ‘Debra Winger’ Characters].

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Family Values: A ‘Healthy Family’ Model (written by Dan L. Dailey)

This is as true as it was when first written in 2009:

reference:

http://wandervogeldiary.wordpress.com/2009/12/

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A “Healthy Family” Model

by dandailey

For the Wandervogel vision to be realized in West Texas, we will be bringing into our community young people from many different backgrounds. They will have diverse talents, skills, and personalities. To prepare for this eventuality, the basic question must be answered: How best to integrate these unique individuals into a healthy and productive community which functions successfully for the benefit of everyone concerned? For this answer I turned to research by various experts and organizations about what characterizes healthy and successful families.

When we speak of families here in the U.S., we tend to mean “nuclear” families—one or more children and a mom and (usually/sometimes) a dad. As a young American teaching in East Africa, I was initially confused when my students spoke of their “brothers,” ”sisters,” “cousins,” “aunts” and “uncles” when referring to people in their villages—people whom we would call “neighbors” and “friends.” I subsequently realized these students came from a tradition in which a family model encompasses the whole village and locality.

Families, it is often said, are the foundational building-blocks of society, and there is a very good reason for this. They’re powerful. Unlike any other social group, families can provide the close emotional support needed to produce able, self-confident, and well-adjusted people—both young people and adults. When they work the way they’re supposed to, families promote the physical, emotional, spiritual, and social welfare of the individual family members. Because of the intimacy they provide, healthy families are uniquely equipped to help members deal with the many changes and unexpected crises which are part of the normal course of life.

In my travels I have visited the homes of families who are so healthy and nurturing, you can literally feel it in the air as numinous energy—a “buzz.” The best I can explain this phenomenon is that my friends created sanctuary-like environments which resonate with love—“sacred spaces” for family life.

A family’s primary functions are thus (1) to create a healthy environment in which family members can successfully grow and develop, and (2) provide a platform for effectively mobilizing talents and resources to assure the family’s happiness, prosperity, and survival.

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Characteristics of Healthy Families

Research identifies several key characteristics which distinguish healthy and successful families. These characteristics are interrelated, and can be grouped into three categories related to cohesion, communication, and change.

Families that do well in each of these areas have fewer problems and are able to deal more effectively with life issues as they arise. Families having difficulty in these areas tend to have more problems which remain unresolved, and the problems can even escalate in severity.

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Cohesion

Healthy families are able to balance individualism and togetherness in ways that result in emotional bonding, positive individual and group identity, moral integrity, cohesive strength and resilience. Through this category of attributes, family members are also able to exercise leadership and command.

Caring. Members of healthy families are invested in one another’s welfare. They are unselfish with one another and cover one another’s backs. Yet the most powerful thing is that they genuinely care about one another as shown by the interest, empathy, and affection that are shared.

“Affective Responsiveness” is what sociologists call the family’s ability to respond emotionally to other family members in an appropriate manner. Families need to be able to share and experience feelings such as love, tenderness, joy, fear, and anger. Families that are unable to respond, for example, with sadness or tenderness, may be restricted or even distorted emotionally.

“Affective Involvement” is how well the family as a whole shows interest in and values the activities and interests of individual family members. However, both over-involvement and under-involvement are patterns of behavior that can pose problems for families.

Respect and Responsibility. Healthy families encourage mutual respect and admiration. They believe each family member is individually important and has the opportunity to influence (or even lead) within the family. Healthy families emphasize personal responsibility, and encourage family members to embrace the consequences of their actions and decisions and deal with them positively and creatively.

The atmosphere within healthy families is shaped by a belief in helping one another, acknowledging human needs for reassurance and support, viewing mistakes as human, and having a positive vision of the future. Healthy families have a generally positive view of humanity and life in general. They focus on individual and family strengths, not shortcomings. When members make mistakes, they refrain from jumping to conclusions and precipitously blaming or criticizing. They employ various philosophies, religious and otherwise, to help family members find transcendental meaning in the inevitable setbacks and losses in life, as well as finding creative solutions.

Healthy families respect personal boundaries, whether physical (including sexual) or abstract (including property). They provide the absolute assurance of personal safety and security to their family members, and actualize such a culture within the family’s realm.

Families that express respect, caring and support, create high expectations for family members, and support their children’s participation in school and other activities are more likely to be happy and successful.

Shared Identity & Values. What does a family really stand for and believe? How do the family’s members see the family and themselves in relation to the larger world? What is the family’s “mission?”

In the most successful families, explicit core values inform a clear sense of family/group identity which is carried into the world by individual family members. These values are inculcated and reinforced in a wide variety of ways including parental example, family stories, and traditions.

Some families express their values through participation in outside social structures such as church and school communities, clubs, sports teams, etc. Many express their values through work or professions including a family business, trade, etc. And others do it through philanthropy, volunteerism, public service, etc.

Resiliency. Through teaching and practical support, healthy families provide their members the building block skills needed to survive and succeed in the world. Academics measure the sum of these building blocks as “resiliency.” The teaching and development of resiliency may be rightly interpreted as embodying the family’s primary “goals.”

The key attributes contributing to resiliency are social competence, problem-solving skills, autonomy, and a sense of purpose and future. Children whose families inculcate these attributes have a better chance of becoming autonomous, resilient adults. Families that teach their members survival skills are themselves more likely to remain cohesive and effective over time.

“Family Time.” Healthy, successful families regularly make time to do things together. They prepare and eat meals together, do chores together, celebrate events and milestones together, have fun together. At a practical level, these family activities provide a venue for regular communication and feedback, and for the conferring of recognition and rewards for family members’ efforts and accomplishments. Even as the children enter adolescence and in the teen years become more attached to their peers, successful families are, through their permeability and inclusiveness, able to maintain their role as the young people’s primary social structure and identity base.

Loyalty. Successful families teach that blood is thicker than water. They provide unconditional love and embody a “sacred compact” of loyalty among family members: Remain loyal to the family and its members, and in return be assured of the family’s support for you. Family members cover one another’s backs.

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Change

The healthiest and most successful families are masters of change. They establish a balance between stability and transition. They help family members adjust and adapt to changing circumstances so family members can exercise greater control and free choice in their personal situations.

Managing change involves dealing with basic, developmental, and crisis tasks. Basic tasks are concerned with the provision of food, money, shelter and other necessities of life. Developmental tasks deal with facilitating and supporting individual and family stages of growth. Individual developmental stages include infancy, childhood, adolescence, adulthood, and aging. Family developmental stages are marked by milestones in the family life cycle including the marriage and the early years before children; childbearing years; the family with school age children; the family with teenagers; the family as a “launching center”; the middle years; and the aging family. Crisis tasks are family hardship events including illness, job loss, accidents, relocation, and death.

Families that are able to cope with and adapt to stressful life events and transitions are better able to maintain a healthy family environment. Successful families do this by cultivating the following attributes:

Creative Problem-Solving. I have previously written that one of the characteristics of healthy families is that they have a generally positive outlook on the future. When confronted with the usual setbacks and problems life throws at us, a positive orientation can result in creative problem-solving. The solution to almost any problem is present within the factors which define the problem itself. When confronted with a pile of pony manure, do you focus on the dung or look for the pony? A positive attitude is a prerequisite for finding and exploiting the solutions and opportunities hidden within any problem.

Creative problem-solving is thus understood as a family’s ability to resolve problems on a level that maintains effective family functioning. Without creativity, a problem may threaten the family’s ability to function if it cannot be resolved.

Organization and negotiating skills. There is much to be done in running a family household, and everyone benefits when things that need to get done can be taken care of without undue stress and friction, chaos, and conflict. A necessary aspect of family life is coordinating tasks, negotiating differences, and being able to reach closure effectively.

Negotiating skills include the ability to listen and make choices in what family members feel is a fair process. In healthy families, this process does not get overly bogged down. There is room for discussion, and parents exercise leadership without being overly controlling. There tends to be a spirit of camaraderie and trust built up over the years so family organization is relatively easy.

People are able to relate intimately—and the family can operate most effectively—when they feel they have equal power. As children grow, they approach more equal control in the family, but certainly their feelings and thoughts should have some potential power in influencing decisions even when they are very young. For couples, equal power in decision making is essential or intimacy suffers. Attention to equal consideration will lead to joint decisions promoting intimacy because those decisions are made in consideration of others.

Clear rules, limits and boundaries. One of the reasons healthy families are able to cope with and adapt to stressful life events and change is that in such families rules, limits, and boundaries are taught and reinforced consistently from a very early age. Such structure (and the resulting predictability and stability) is essential to developing a family’s internal strengths and its durability as a unit.

Having clear boundaries between family members also means that the responsibilities of adults are clear and separate from the responsibilities of children. Healthy families are able to establish clear, yet flexible, roles that enable them to carry out family functions. Establishing clear roles within a family is directly connected to a family’s ability to deal with normal and unexpected changes.

Deciding work roles inside and outside the home is an important family task. However democratic discussions may be, parents must retain appropriate decision-making relative to the ages of their children. Naturally, as a child grows the task of the family is to prepare the child for making her or his own decisions in life. This is a gradual process which requires consistency over time.

Boundaries between family members, especially with regard to property rights and physical safety, are essential to creating a sense of security for every family member. A child who is beaten, sexually abused, verbally assaulted, blamed and shamed, or otherwise violated will not view the family as a stable platform from which to address the unpredictability and changes of life.

“Boundaries” also refers to the permeability of the nuclear family structure to the larger extended family and outside community. To be flexible and resilient, a family must balance a cohesive sense of family with acceptance of outside persons and resources. Children need to be able to trust in other adults and seek resources outside the family as they mature.

Consistent and loving discipline. Behavior patterns within any successful family must be regulated, learned from, and improved. The parents, or family leaders, must guide and enforce this process consistently with a loving (and not authoritarian) attitude.

Some families have flexible behavior patterns while others may have more rigid patterns. Families with flexible behavior patterns are better able to adjust to and cope with changing circumstances. When errors in judgment are made, especially by children or adolescents, family members seek to help produce change through warmth in relating versus over-controlling.

This does not mean that clear and defined consequences are not invoked. It does mean, however that parents don’t threaten what they’re not willing to follow-up on. Motives or reasons for “mistakes” are evaluated from a variety of different angles, rather than assuming the person to be “bad” or “stupid”, etc. Family members believe in the inherent “goodness” of one another, and do not assume “bad” intent of other members. A learning orientation to life with emotional availability to members helps ease the distress of “growing pains.”

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Communication

Communication is defined as the way verbal and nonverbal information is exchanged within a family. Families who can express their feelings to one another are more cohesive and better equipped to solve problems as they arise. Clear, direct, and honest communication—and through it, effective family functioning—depends on several factors:

“Safe to be me.” Healthy families create environments in which it is safe for members to honestly talk about feelings, beliefs, and ideas without fear of criticism or reprisal. Healthy families hold honesty as one of their most important core values. Members of healthy families are free to express themselves autonomously, including divergent opinions or viewpoints, if the family interactions support individuality. Discussions can be lively and even heated if it is basically acceptable for family members to have differences. Love and caring are not withdrawn if people think differently about some issue. If ambivalence and uncertainty are accepted, as well as differences, families tend to enjoy an open atmosphere of honesty in relationship.

Warmth, joy and humor. When there is warmth, joy, and humor in relationships, people seek out the comfort of these interactions. Family members’ enjoyment and trust in one another is an important energizing resource. In healthy families there is the feeling that there is always someone to talk to who cares, and with whom you can laugh and have fun.

Humor plays a very important role in family bonding. One aspect of mental health is the ability to laugh at ourselves good naturedly. (This is not the same as laughing at, or making fun of someone at their expense.) Instead, it is a shared experience of humor that lessens the tendency to take ourselves too seriously, and that allows us to regain an overview or larger perspective that has been temporarily lost in the stresses of everyday life.

Active listening. The ability to pay attention and listen to what others are saying is just as important as being able to express one’s self to others. Successful communications depends not only on skillful sending—i.e., speaking, writing, singing, drawing, etc.—but also on skillful receiving—listening, hearing, seeing, empathizing, understanding. Families that communicate at one another are less successful than families that communicate with each other