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Part IV in a Series: Psychoanalytic Analysis of a Major Life-Changing Event [that of my ex-lover]

May Day ’18:

Why do people take ‘the defense’ of decisions they make? If other’s opinions are acceptable – if not right or way wrong – why do those who could use advice become offended and defensive?

It is a natural, if not psycho phenomenon, to take on ‘defense mechanisms’ in order to justify or rationalize. It is natural in that by adopting a ‘defense mechanism’ it protects one’s mind from harm, for better or for worse. I learned this simple stuff as an undergraduate Psychology major at Indiana University – where incidentally, I met my daughter’s mother. After about five years of up-and-down courtship, we were lawfully married for more than 26 years.

The reasons we got married are not the same rational reasons Americans take on marriage these days. What we had in-common drifted over the years prompting a great idea to split up despite the consequences. To me, money did not matter. That perspective worked to my ex-spouses future benefit.

What was neat is that we birthed a wonderful daughter and resumed a Christian relationship. Unfortunately, I am the only one who regularly celebrates my Christianity. That is probably the most difficult issue remaining for me; the fact that my ex-lover married a Republican (she has been a life-long Democrat and I am in the Green Party) atheist. Her faith was so strong a decade ago that my friends gave her the nickname ‘Church Lady.’

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   Mores, morality, judgments, values, principles, and our life goals and missions change when we ditch the importance of integrating religion into our lives. Being good stewards of the earth is a religious concept. I agree with Pope Francis I that one can have a spiritual life without being a Catholic. Regardless, I seriously considered the priesthood after my first and only divorce.

Being a child of my parents’ divorce and having five step-sisters, I believe, gives me a rich perspective of divorce, marriage, and remarriage. I can accept what is written in the Bible, too. Belief in these writings is one thing, not to believe in God in any sort of fashion ain’t a good thing for atheists or children or others who are looking for fine role models.

My Roman Catholic mother received a lot of counseling from a priest at the University of Notre Dame prior to her divorce and ended up re-marrying another ‘excommunicated’ Catholic who worked at N.D.

Despite it all, I feel I had a relatively mentally healthy childhood and adulthood. Nowadays given circumstances like my own, divorced people can get married in the Catholic Church.

Unfortunately, my ex-lover of over thirty years in unable to try to understand all this Roman Catholic dogma. Again, her ‘defense mechanisms’ kick in.

I value being able to receive sanctifying grace by receiving the sacraments of communion and confession regularly and taking the Sacrament of the Healing of the Sick whenever necessary… in my life, I have received what used to be called ‘the last rites’ four times during the last three years.

– to be continued –

– (Check out our other web-blogs for the first three parts of this series of articles)

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Pompano (fish) Available Wild in the (formerly) Great State of Indiana and Along Florida’s Atlantic Coast

Pampano!

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There are several fish species in the genera Trachinotus that are marketed as pompano. The name pompano has long been used broadly to refer to many different species within this large family of fish called jacks (Carangidae). Pompano became popular in the United States primarily because of the domestic sport and commercial fishery along the coast of Florida for Trachinotus carolinus. This species is the most expensive and preferred due to its wonderful flavor, texture and fat content. This species of pompano is highly valued as a food fish both commercially and recreationally.

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Today much of our domestic demand for this species is met by whole frozen Golden Pompano, Trachinotus auratus/blochii, (sometimes referred to as Golden Permit) which is imported from Asia where it is farm raised in sea cages. This imported Pompano is a close match to the eating quality of the much sought after native U.S. pompano carolinus species. Most of the domestic pompano is sold in the fresh market at much higher prices than this imported whole frozen Golden Pompano which primarily comes from China. However, the availability of this imported pompano satisfies a demand for frozen product that the domestic pompano fishery simply cannot meet.

Both Trachinotus species are thin, silver-colored fish with gold on the belly and a deep body. Their flesh is white, delicate, and has pleasing oil content. These two pompano species grow to about two pounds and 18 inches long.
Domestically, larger fish are filleted while smaller fish are usually offered in whole cleaned pan ready form. Smaller fish are better eating than the larger ones. The imported Golden Pompano helps fill the demand for these smaller 1-2# sized whole fish when domestic fresh pompano is unavailable or too high in price. There has, and continues to be, significant restrictions on both the commercial and recreational harvests of pompano in order to protect the U.S. domestic resource. Sea Port’s imported farmed raised Golden Pompano assists in lessening the pressure on this popular U.S. wild fishery

Within the diverse pompano (jack) family, there is a very large species (Trachinotus falcatus) that gets as large as fifty pounds. Its scientific common name is Permit. Whenever two pound or larger fillets or whole pompano over three pounds are offered in the marketplace, they are most likely from this much larger pompano (Permit) and should be priced much lower than the smaller pompano due its lower quality of meat (drier/coarser).
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Pompano are excellent broiled, oven baked, or pan fried, but there is a substantial tradition of cooking them in pouches by baking them and using complex sauces. It is highly esteemed as a food fish. The delicacy and quality of the flesh, however, should be able to stand on its own with simple preparation and cooking.

As a broad general rule of thumb, always choose whole pompano that are two pounds or less in size. This will help assure you are most likely getting the most desirable pompanos from this large and diverse family of jacks (Carangidae).

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Just a Thought from a Dude who Studied History for 25 Years in IN: A Reflection on Republican History – Avoiding a Constitutional Crisis, Preserving the USA Republic, and Fostering World Peace

Hoosiers do not want to die in war or by natural causes before the 2020 presidential election.

Besides, the Chinese outnumber us by about one billion to 10 million people and the Russian and Syrian governments haven’t done many nice acts for humanity during the last 50 years.

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Could the Republican Party do the U.S. and the world a favor?

May we take a lesson from history?

It was done during the 1970’s.

In the name of the party of Abraham Lincoln and by the grace of God, can it happen again?

(1) The Speaker of the House of Representatives changed prior to the mid-term election of 1974, with a presidential election looming in 1976.

(2) The dishonorable Vice President (Spiro Agnew / like Mike Pence) was replaced.

(3) The sitting President (RMN) resigned with some dignity and many accomplishments.

(4) The Vice President (Gerald Ford) seamlessly assumed the Presidency.

(5) A respectable Vice President (former New York Governor Nelson Rockefeller) was selected.

(6) The U. S. House of Representatives democratically elected a new Speaker of the House (who follows the VP as next in-line to succeed the President of the United States of America (POTUS)).

Given the…

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Estrella Vista / The Redemption Project / “Wandervogel Diary”

“Estrella Vista”

800 Seaman Road

HC-65, Box 243 A

Alpine, TX  79830

 

(432) 371-4257

 

DaileySun@outlook.com

 

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

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Dear Family, Friends, and Supporters,

 

I have just witnessed my second-in-a-row fantastic moon sets from Estrella Vista.

Last night was a full moon on a clear and slightly warmer midnight than the two nights

before. It is not yet 7 a.m. and the eastern sky is beginning to show great colors of reds,

yellows, and oranges.

 

This is a magnificent estate which my brother created to help young men and women,

who endured child abuse and then had to be prosecuted as adults for murders they were

led to do while children. Fairness in American justice may never be achieved but giving

perociles a chance to lead more normal lives can be a reality. Estrella Vista stands today

– without its visionary founder – as that beacon of safety, security, and hope.

 

So in the spirit of keeping the beacon burning bright, I am asking”Wandervogel Diary”

readers to respond with their best efforts to keep the vision, mission, goals, and

projects of The Redemption Project moving into the right direction.

 

Your support of new administrators of the project, Dan’s son Henry,

and many others working on the project will be appreciated very much.

Where ever I may be, I will be praying, thinking positive, and looking

forward to reading about your future successes.

 

All the best,

 

 

David A. F. N. “Buck” Dailey

Founder of “The Dailey Sun-Chronicles”

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Animals Can Learn Me All Needed To No

Lessons that do not have to be learned by humans
“the hard way.”

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Dog Wisdom: See Lessons Learned From Dogs by David A. Dailey

Talking Turkey:

(1) Treat a dead chicken like a tom turkey.

Rub it down real good in salt and water before cooking.

(2) Don’t look up staring at a rainstorm.

     From  my Cats Ozzie, Ray, Maxine, Snowball, et.al:

(1) If you don’t like where you are at now, move.

(2) There is no such thing as loneliness; solitude is a great thing.

(3) If you want something, speak up. It does not hurt to ask.

(4) If you shit up, it is your ship – cover it up.

Learned Horses Brandywine and Dawn Dailey:

(1) Eat well and often.

(2) Be dependable.

(3) Demonstrate grace, passion, strength, inner beauty, and talents.

     Razorback Hogs:

(1) Roll in your own shit and you will smell like yourself.

(2) If you mind your manners and keep your hocks clean, you may…

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Excerpt from Cookbook: Confessions of An Oenophile

Cookbook available for purchase through Barnes & Noble, Amazon, or Outskirts Press.

Phorward

This cookbook has been in the oven for over 100 years.

My family has a tradition of eating well no matter what.

My Grandma was born in June 1903.

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There are too many people for me to thank for everything. I’ll start with my Grandmothers, my mother who passed away in the 90’s, and my dad who died in his sleep in the 80’s. I’d also like to publicly thank my mother-in-law, too. Grandmother Baker raised five bright healthy children. Grandma Bruggner had eleven grandkids and Grandma Dailey had five of us. Special thanks to my daughter Anessa, older brother Dan, and sister Christine! Also, you know who you are in Healdsburg, California.

If you are shopping for recipes to barbeque or microwave, this is not the book for you.

If you have food allergies, I can appreciate those. Me, myself, and I am deathly allergic to nuts, mustard, and some strawberries. So these All-American recipes can be embellished with these ingredients if you wish. Just do not expect me to touch the nuts.

Thank heavens that few nuts are grown where I was born and raised in Indiana.

Unlike the Pottowatomie Indians, my school chums and I never ate tree nuts or grown acorns from oak trees. We spent more time playing in poison ivy.

I truly believe that eating American food is good for us. All that obesity talk is heavy. I used to weigh 328 pounds. In the three years since my gastric bypass surgery, I have lost 122 pounds. So eating is one of my problems. Thus a series of dinner parties and one “coast-to-coast virtual dinner was held on 9-1-07. Recipes from India, mushrooms, some strawberries and shrimp were some of my favorites but unfortunately I cannot digest some things without sad symptoms. So what I chose to eat is important principally because I must not overeat too much food, few fast foods or drink a lot of liquids.

Speaking of liquids, I highly recommend all kinds of wine! For over eleven months, I have immersed myself in the Northern California wine culture by living right in the center of it. Talking with chefs along the Wine Country. Learning from them, winemakers and specialists in wine tasting rooms. Gratitude is due to everyone I met along the wine roads of Sonoma, Napa, Mendocino, and Monterey Counties in California. Prior to moving to Wine Country, I lived about 20 years in California’s beautiful San Mateo County and seven years in San Francisco. Personally, I remain a Hoosier but believe I am a Californian that you can trust your stomachs to.

Preface

 

This cookbook has been in the works for decades. As a “latchkey kid” long before the term was popularized, I was preparing meals for myself from age ten or so. I would like to be able to claim that I learned the kitchen basics at my mother’s elbow, but the truth is I found my way reading cookbooks and through trial-and-error.

 

When I inherited my mother’s and grandmother’s recipes on index cards, I took it upon myself to reconstruct my family’s kitchen legacy which had previously only been preserved in the hearts and memories of our family and friends.

 

Thus, a fair amount of contemporary thought and planning has gone into this cookbook, and it has been shaped by my own tastes and interests. For example, it has been my goal to put together a practical family cookbook using wine as an important ingredient in a wide variety of menus. I live in the wine country of northern California, where wine is an important influence in the whole culture. I have therefore taken our old family meals and embellished them accordingly.

 

I have also tended to focus on “comfort foods” which, though some people accuse this use of food as being inherently unhealthy, can be made increasingly beneficial if only the cook will think about how home-grown produce and local ingredients can be integrated and experiment with them. I therefore have included recipes which use those foods and ingredients that are available, not only to us in California, but in the Midwestern, Southern and the Atlantic states.

 

We are entering an era in which rising transportation costs and food safety concerns will likely change our ways with food.  These recipes limit the mandatory use of gourmet, exotic, and hard-to-find ingredients. I have, in fact, organized the book according to the seasons of the year when local ingredients are more likely to be “in season.”

 

I can recall during college that my dear future wife tried baking homemade wheat bread. Too bad she got confused between baking powder and baking soda; we ended up using the loaves as doorstops. Remember to have a sense of humor in the kitchen – no matter what may happen.

 

 

Fall 2007