Seventh Part: A Psychoanalytic Retrospective of an Ex-Lover

People used to say I looked like Robert Redford or Jon Voight when I was a college chum. No one thought my ex- resembled nor sung like Barbra.


The Way We Were as college buddies sort of held up for two decades before falling apart in a divorce; the similarities to the movie romance end there.


Part IV in a Series: Psychoanalytic Analysis of a Major Life-Changing Event [that of my ex-lover]

May Day ’18:

Why do people take ‘the defense’ of decisions they make? If other’s opinions are acceptable – if not right or way wrong – why do those who could use advice become offended and defensive?

It is a natural, if not psycho phenomenon, to take on ‘defense mechanisms’ in order to justify or rationalize. It is natural in that by adopting a ‘defense mechanism’ it protects one’s mind from harm, for better or for worse. I learned this simple stuff as an undergraduate Psychology major at Indiana University – where incidentally, I met my daughter’s mother. After about five years of up-and-down courtship, we were lawfully married for more than 26 years.

The reasons we got married are not the same rational reasons Americans take on marriage these days. What we had in-common drifted over the years prompting a great idea to split up despite the consequences. To me, money did not matter. That perspective worked to my ex-spouses future benefit.

What was neat is that we birthed a wonderful daughter and resumed a Christian relationship. Unfortunately, I am the only one who regularly celebrates my Christianity. That is probably the most difficult issue remaining for me; the fact that my ex-lover married a Republican (she has been a life-long Democrat and I am in the Green Party) atheist. Her faith was so strong a decade ago that my friends gave her the nickname ‘Church Lady.’

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Thones of Angels Praising God Playing Harps

   Mores, morality, judgments, values, principles, and our life goals and missions change when we ditch the importance of integrating religion into our lives. Being good stewards of the earth is a religious concept. I agree with Pope Francis I that one can have a spiritual life without being a Catholic. Regardless, I seriously considered the priesthood after my first and only divorce.

Being a child of my parents’ divorce and having five step-sisters, I believe, gives me a rich perspective of divorce, marriage, and remarriage. I can accept what is written in the Bible, too. Belief in these writings is one thing, not to believe in God in any sort of fashion ain’t a good thing for atheists or children or others who are looking for fine role models.

My Roman Catholic mother received a lot of counseling from a priest at the University of Notre Dame prior to her divorce and ended up re-marrying another ‘excommunicated’ Catholic who worked at N.D.

Despite it all, I feel I had a relatively mentally healthy childhood and adulthood. Nowadays given circumstances like my own, divorced people can get married in the Catholic Church.

Unfortunately, my ex-lover of over thirty years in unable to try to understand all this Roman Catholic dogma. Again, her ‘defense mechanisms’ kick in.

I value being able to receive sanctifying grace by receiving the sacraments of communion and confession regularly and taking the Sacrament of the Healing of the Sick whenever necessary… in my life, I have received what used to be called ‘the last rites’ four times during the last three years.

– to be continued –

– (Check out our other web-blogs for the first three parts of this series of articles)

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Pompano (fish) Available Wild in the (formerly) Great State of Indiana and Along Florida’s Atlantic Coast



There are several fish species in the genera Trachinotus that are marketed as pompano. The name pompano has long been used broadly to refer to many different species within this large family of fish called jacks (Carangidae). Pompano became popular in the United States primarily because of the domestic sport and commercial fishery along the coast of Florida for Trachinotus carolinus. This species is the most expensive and preferred due to its wonderful flavor, texture and fat content. This species of pompano is highly valued as a food fish both commercially and recreationally.

Note: Good Music to eat fish . . .


Today much of our domestic demand for this species is met by whole frozen Golden Pompano, Trachinotus auratus/blochii, (sometimes referred to as Golden Permit) which is imported from Asia where it is farm raised in sea cages. This imported Pompano is a close match to the eating quality of the much sought after native U.S. pompano carolinus species. Most of the domestic pompano is sold in the fresh market at much higher prices than this imported whole frozen Golden Pompano which primarily comes from China. However, the availability of this imported pompano satisfies a demand for frozen product that the domestic pompano fishery simply cannot meet.

Both Trachinotus species are thin, silver-colored fish with gold on the belly and a deep body. Their flesh is white, delicate, and has pleasing oil content. These two pompano species grow to about two pounds and 18 inches long.
Domestically, larger fish are filleted while smaller fish are usually offered in whole cleaned pan ready form. Smaller fish are better eating than the larger ones. The imported Golden Pompano helps fill the demand for these smaller 1-2# sized whole fish when domestic fresh pompano is unavailable or too high in price. There has, and continues to be, significant restrictions on both the commercial and recreational harvests of pompano in order to protect the U.S. domestic resource. Sea Port’s imported farmed raised Golden Pompano assists in lessening the pressure on this popular U.S. wild fishery

Within the diverse pompano (jack) family, there is a very large species (Trachinotus falcatus) that gets as large as fifty pounds. Its scientific common name is Permit. Whenever two pound or larger fillets or whole pompano over three pounds are offered in the marketplace, they are most likely from this much larger pompano (Permit) and should be priced much lower than the smaller pompano due its lower quality of meat (drier/coarser).

Pompano are excellent broiled, oven baked, or pan fried, but there is a substantial tradition of cooking them in pouches by baking them and using complex sauces. It is highly esteemed as a food fish. The delicacy and quality of the flesh, however, should be able to stand on its own with simple preparation and cooking.

As a broad general rule of thumb, always choose whole pompano that are two pounds or less in size. This will help assure you are most likely getting the most desirable pompanos from this large and diverse family of jacks (Carangidae).


Just a Thought from a Dude who Studied History for 25 Years in IN: A Reflection on Republican History – Avoiding a Constitutional Crisis, Preserving the USA Republic, and Fostering World Peace

Hoosiers do not want to die in war or by natural causes before the 2020 presidential election.

Besides, the Chinese outnumber us by about one billion to 10 million people and the Russian and Syrian governments haven’t done many nice acts for humanity during the last 50 years.

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Could the Republican Party do the U.S. and the world a favor?

May we take a lesson from history?

It was done during the 1970’s.

In the name of the party of Abraham Lincoln and by the grace of God, can it happen again?

(1) The Speaker of the House of Representatives changed prior to the mid-term election of 1974, with a presidential election looming in 1976.

(2) The dishonorable Vice President (Spiro Agnew / like Mike Pence) was replaced.

(3) The sitting President (RMN) resigned with some dignity and many accomplishments.

(4) The Vice President (Gerald Ford) seamlessly assumed the Presidency.

(5) A respectable Vice President (former New York Governor Nelson Rockefeller) was selected.

(6) The U. S. House of Representatives democratically elected a new Speaker of the House (who follows the VP as next in-line to succeed the President of the United States of America (POTUS)).

Given the…

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I.U. Basketball Highs and Lows since ’87

THE MOST MEMORABLE WINS #10: Indiana 87, San Diego State 83, 2006 Mike Davis was on his way out, but this one was quite sweet even as the program looked to restructure, blissfully unaware of what the future what hold only a ahort three years later after a disastrous hire. Nevertheless, after being outplayed for […]

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The Dogs’ Best Friend?

Chapter 1 and 2 of Lessons Learned from Dogs

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By David A. Dailey with Fulla Bull T. Teddy Iz Rumpkin

Table of Contents for Lessons Learned From Dogs

Table of Contents from the humorous book “Lessons Learned From Dogs”

Chapter One -Stay Alert, Yet Relaxed

Chapter Two -Insomnia? Fall Asleep Anywhere

Chapter Three    -Loyalty

Chapter Four   -Fun Times and Play

Chapter Five   -Eating and Drinking

Chapter Six  -City Dogs

Chapter Seven   -Country Dogs

Chapter Eight    -Mischief and Wisdom

Chapter Nine   -The Finale

Chapter 1 – “Stay Alert, Yet Relaxed”

“Dogs are mans’ best friend, “ said an anonymous sage observer many years ago.

Dogs use all their senses, sometimes in mysterious and amazing ways, which human beings are unable to comprehend. Nonetheless we appreciate and benefit from them.

Look, listen, and watch your dog because you will learn some valuable lessons. This book includes many things I and others have learned with the help of our dogs about life.

Dogs live in the moment. Humans are…

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